Now my girlfriend has always had her dog sleep next to her since years.So when we look at the prospect of the two of us moving in this is a major thing.We have been talking about it for over a month and there seems to be a deadlock.She doesnt want to give up on the dog in bed and I cannot cannot take it.Please help. and gave her one of her chewies, and never again, shes very smary and loyal, she stays close off leash enough to whete I can see her but she can still run after things and be a dog. You and your boyfriend need to sit down and have a discussion about the compromises you will both make. Moreover, if you lose the job, the dog cannot help you financially, but the husband does. She is not a bad dog, is very obedient, but my life is nothing but white dog hair right now. Shes about 9 or 10 years old. My boyfriend cant stand me saying anything either..TODAY the freakin thing jumped up on my rocking chair & it was rubbing itself all over it. Neither dog has any health problems, though they make frequent trips to a very expensive vet who sells them expensive dry-food to mix in with the custom cooked meat dishes. I also find myself sleeping alone every night while the dog sleeps with him because if she sleeps in a kennel she whines because she has a severe case of separation anxiety from him. You are most likely just wasting your time in that relationship (or should I say what relationship?). I read nearly all of these comments, and I can totally relate to the frustration, because I too live with a dog that has a MYRIAD of biological/anxiety issues (and also sheds, drools, etc). It is protecting a member of its pack. And he was totally inflexible by saying that he wouldnt give up sleeping with his precious Mesa for anything. Is there a way to train her that would get the desired results without requiring a large investment of my time or spouses time as I expect our energy will be eaten up by trying to care for twins? He did not cross that line, but he was definitely in love with his dog. Well now she takes anything and everything and runs outside with it to destroy it. Maybe our guys should get together and have fun talking and babying those ugly little beasts. I dont let the dogs sleep with us and they both have their own spaces in the house where they sleep, and where they are allowed to be during the day as well, but ever since we got the puppy my 10 year old yorkie is waking us both up barking at 3AM, 4AM, 5AM to eat. Save yourself while you still can. How long do puppy blues last and how to overcome? I love animals and would have more if I could but three is my limit for time and budget. I totally understand where you are coming from. Just as I clean after his 12 year old son who is completely capable of picking up after himself. I feel that the dog is a real liability so I have been able to find a no-kill shelter that agreed to take him. i just feel that a lot of time goes to these animals and thats taking away time from our marriage. I offered to pay for a local dog whisperer to come into the situation as many times as needed to address a compromise but she wouldnt think of it. I went into this marriage never having heard the term dog codependence. Its time for you to put your foot down with you bf. As I feel she does not care for it properly and number 1, it is not my pet and when I started caring for the dog she completely quit and the dog was becoming my responsibility. I knew this dog was hurting. Try to clean the house every day prior to the arrival of the husband/boyfriend. How rude, especially for women, yet she never did anything wrong! Im not against the dog, dogs in general are just not for me anymore. I am a person that loves animals (yes, dogs too), but I prefer cats. Wow, sorry to hear that ANOTHER person put their dog above their human companion. Neither of us like dog hair on our clothes, so hes not allowed on our couch or in our bed. :) Its too I didnt meet someone like you that has this common sense attitude when it come to their pets. What bothers me is that she jumps up on you all the time, she follows him around 24/7, and she whines all the But, on the slim chance the dog really was in immediate danger, you could and should find a home for it where every adult in that home wants the dog. I did agree to having the dog with us because I dont like to see any animal suffer as I am too a dog lover. Then slowly move onto the dog bed by itself and reward him when he stays. I just cant do it anymore! anyway something happened to me and her That night. Some signs of narcissism in your boyfriend include: jealousy, lies, selfishness, envy . Firstly, they drool so seeing them drool around the kitchen table was gross (she called it cute, not cute!). My family hates all of my pets. If thats not what you wanted to hear then alternatively, you could just come home with two puppies one day (because he said you couldnt get A DOG) and tell him to deal with it.. My partner is always defensive over any suggestions about the dog which makes me really upset and pissed off. Wow! Melissa, I really feel your pain. I feel that this is not a time and a place to have dogs, where we should get used to living with the 2 of us and building our life and a good foundation together as newlyweds and have a good quality of life where I can get my night sleep and just live in peace and harmony. Or at least me, shes a heavy sleeper. Who runs the show you or the dog? Ive been understanding of this bc his mother had just passed. As for me and the dog, we still dont get along, Im trying to make it work but she tends to nip and Yelp at me, so we just leave each other alone. Because Im usually the one home first, given that my working hours start way earlier than my wife. Another issue is, I have been teaching the kids to not touch the dog during meal time to avoid the dog getting defensive and hurting the kids. Im just mad. Now the puppy is 100% potty trained and I feel like we were on the right track but my husband said he wants both of them gone yesterday (that will never happen). My bf and I moved in together after 2 years of dating, (at the time I had a Chihuahua & a Shi-poohe had a Maltese mix). Everything revolves around this dog. It is a Weimeraner, and I hate the breed, its characteristics, its mannerisms and love all other dogs. I have to disagree. For myself, as a child my family had dogs, cats, birds, fish, and even a turtle. Sorry if this posted more than once, I had some trouble trying to post it. I have a labra-doodle and have always had an inside dog. It is ridiculous. They come with all their own little quirks and needs and personality traits. We have been living together for 2 years now. Finally one of my plates was chipped and I ask him to stop and he started using paper plates. I feel your pain. Hire a dog trainer: If your husband/boyfriend is about to get rid of the dog, first you need to chat with him and get another month of time to correct the behavior. But it's amazing how often we jump through psychological hoops of self-justification to convince ourselves that things are really working. Thats what dog beds are for. I dont understand why she even has him if she doesnt want to do anything with him. Bb, you sound like me and my wife. Now I demanded some things change, whereas before he was able to do whatever and be left alone the dog came into this house pooping everywhere, being defiant, acting super and extra needy, etc. Anyway, as I was feeding the baby I hear my dog whining which I know means he needs to go out. At the beginning, I was cool with the idea of the dog, he is placid, relaxed but at times, can be annoying (begs at you all the time), will jump on the bed and lounge when Im not there ect. I have wondered if Im going to keep the relationship. If I try to talk to him about the dog, he blows up and says I am not getting rid of him! Sorry you are having these struggles too. We tried once I had a terrible anxiety attack that didnt go away until we gave the dog back. Live my life wanting to keep him happy? He treated me like dirt when I would suggest OTC meds. Discuss with the husband/boyfriend: He is your love. As long as your partner isnt abusive toward animals, he or she doesnt have to let Fido lick him/her on the face or put up with Kittys constant scratching. If he wants the dog gone, then respect his wishes as this decision was made without his input. I feel your pain. I always treat both dogs equally, feed them, let them out, walk them, take them for a ride, play with them both at the same times. OMG that is horrible! Good luck and congratulations on your new baby!! I am married 4 years and must admit that i have never had pets. A part of me feels like I know that this dog means so much more to him. Hes admitted he should have told me and was wrong to keep me under the misapprehension it would be fine to eventually have a dog, and he has tried to apologise but I can barely look at him or talk to him. I met my boyfriend several months ago, and we only just recently started dating. A dog that is misbehaving, begging for attention, or being rude, is actually feeling very UNCOMFORTABLE and is seeking relief! We tried create training and he broke the first one so we got a metal one. She could scarcely walk to her bed and just played there I know now she was depressed, and had been thru 5 homes, and that maybe she was running away because she was in heat, that was another huge annoying thing I was trying to put diapers on her and such and she wasnt willing to hold still that made me mad or she thought she could run back to her old house. Dog eats off his plate and will get on counter and lick frying pan or eat whatever i have thawing out. Here are several tips to minimize the issue. The above comprehensive article has covered everything you need to be aware of about puppy blues. Let your poor little puppy go to someone who will give him love not abuse. Right now the only rules I want is for them to stay off the furniture and not pee on the floor. Assistir Sheffield Utd X Tottenham - Ao Vivo Grtis HD sem travar, sem anncios. And the noise pierces my ears it is so HIGH. We do sleep in the same bed, but when she came, she began sleeping in the room with us. Dogs are dogs , they should take commands, listen and respect their position and Of course the owner needs to be respectful in their roll as well. We didnt have a honeymoon so on Day 2 he hurried around to go get his dog. A partner than doesnt take care of their dog, doesnt train it, give it exercise or give it what it needs ( not wants) is the problem not the dog. Educate yourself with free content available on the internet and do most of the training by yourself. In real life however, and especially in terms of relationships between humans, there is no quick-acting elixir or love potion to fix relationship woes. Every dog site pushes the same narrative: there are no limits to what a dog is entitled to (along with ads for expensive trash to buy Fido). I dont understand alot of things about this situation. He wont even consider me looking after a friends cat at our house for a week, thats how much he Dislikes pets. Drool xs 2! 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