I hav a grandma who is breaking into my room and touching my genetals in my sleep Ive woken up to my groin smelling of dry silava and I have whittness. "It's not because. Then as the grown ups were talking and as I thought the kids were playing Ik the room , my son comes in the living room crying and holding me with only his shirt on , no shorts no diaper . My daughter was molested by her father and although he doesn't want to admit it. And i guess that tipped her off the edge and she revealed everything to me that night. I just read an article that has really upset me . Posted at 01:41h . As stated above, "their" is used to show ownership by multiple persons. To No Name. These less typical sexual behaviors include: 2. I can never sleep at night because of the guilt and gained 50lbs. Nonetheless, they are all spelt differently as they all three have different meanings. Days after that he also tells me that the guy told him a word is a word and you cant tell anyone. Divorce if you have to or send the kid away to live with someone you trust like your mother until you can finalize the divorce. I told my brother. It would be so much easier to read and believe if the author could actually write with good grammar. What should I do? She want do nothing but protect this man kid ! I have a step son (age 10) that is showing serious signs of being gay. Except that offenders are never 'cured'. You arent doing anything wrong, its your dad. This was after the Sherrie had already spoke to my granddaughter and I was directed to do an emergency stay order and DHS told me too. I've read some of the comments below. If parents find out that their child is involved in inappropriate sexual behavior with another child, Nacson and Letourneau recommend being clear about why it was wrong, and laying out consequences if the child does it again. I want stand by and watch my cousins keep getting abused .he gotta away with it with my older cousin and she isnt away n Georgia n doesnt want to come back n her mom wonders why ?? She says that she was scared to get in trouble and she was scared of him. When it comes to sexual abuse, parents often focus on protecting their children from adult predators; few consider the possibility that their child might be the perpetrator. I never spoke a word to anyone for the simple fact who would believe a five year old. Hello i need any advice on how to deal and not fear with leaving ur kids at a day care pre school or anywhere while u can work. She then started to pertain to hump something while talking(couldn't completely understand what she was saying) she did that for a while then made a sound like orgasm. I do not know if it's any type of abuse or what.just wondering if anyone has any ideas/comments. Then it all bow up! ". Our first concern is to ensure that there is no further abuse and that the child remains safe. You need to rely on yourself to keep your child protected. I have cut all ties off with my sister and I'm cutting ties off with my family as well because ill be damn for them to tell my daughter shes lying and for her to grow up thinking that when bad things happen no one will believe her and protect her. Am I just freaking out over nothing or is this behavior normal ? When I upset him he pulls my hair, spits on me, squeezes my hand really hard, forcing me to look at him. Evidence is less concrete if an individual believed the touching was sexual in nature, but it did not involve his or her genitals, buttocks or private parts. bullying my little girl calling her a boy in a dress and i a man when we are not! A psychological distrubed discriminating police officer in S.E. ", Nacson advises parents tell their children, "If you're in that situation I want you to get out of it, and it's not something I want you to do with someone else.". I told her we don't play that and who is doing it. The reason Im here I was looking online about all the child abuse . Many children continue to be friendly or affectionate to the person who is sexually abusing them. When it comes to sexual abuse, parents often focus on protecting their children; few consider the possibility that their child might be the perpetrator. We just had another episode yesterday where the youngest one came to me and said that his brother (the gay one) "told me that he is going to put his D**k in his butt". Another child inappropriately touched mine I got a call from my child's school today letting me know another child had "touched and tickled" his privates. He explained that he can hear footsteps that arent actually there. An example sentence would be, "we are going THERE after dinner." Ask if anyone has been touching them inappropriately. And he'd ask her questions about what her and her boyfriend in school do together sexually. Everytime I bring a female friend to see mom, he tries to get in her face and in her private life and I end up losing a friend. He also tells me that his mother told him that it never happened and it was all a Dream. The person is suffering . Touching an adult's genitals. Secondly make a report to law enforcement as soon as possible, and be prepared to have information concerning the possible suspect, additional victims and witnesses. Can I also add that they may not be afraid of the perpetrator because the touching can be pleasurable and gives them the warm fuzzies - sadly! 2 of the 3 children age ( 6 & 8) were overheard talking about the 17 year old foster child kissing my 7 year old. She tells me she has seen no signs of this at home and I am the only one he does this for. (Richard Drury / Getty Images). You must figure out what behavior is normal, healthy, and age-appropriate and what is inappropriate and alarming. To Arkygirl, Amanda, and anyone else saying it: there IS a world spelt 'spelt'. So my advice from my personal experience (living nightmare). "Seek professional help anytime there is a power differential between kids, anytime there is physical violence and anytime there are threats or secrecy," Rosenzweig says. How dare you not protect that baby you should be ashamed of yourself and your just as wrong as your sick husband if you don't do something and get him out of harms way. We have gaurdianship of our grandson have for almost 8 months and 0 contact from the mother since January (court ordered not to) about a month ago a little more he said that his mommy and the boyfriend were touching his peepee, when asked he made a jerking off motion and then rubbing motion and continuus to have complete anxiety about taking a bath. I checked the area and she began crying so I wouldn't look. Help me. By this point Im sick to my stomach by this. Two extremely different people. Its touching n hitting going on in that house n needs to be stopped I need help PLEASE. They have a newborn . Trying to kiss others using their tongue. My 4 year old just told me my bf of a year and a half pulled down her pants and spit on her. I always assumed they were just having an adult conversation. Her hymen was intact but there was white gunk on the inside of her vagina area. This happened to me as a child by my own grandfather and my grandmother allowed it. God please someone help her what can we do? The dr told me there was no evidence of my child being abused, but that didnt mean it wasnt happening. The officials believed him. The only time I don't feel like that is when I become the monster. If something is being done to you, or you have a thought/feeling about someone you can't shake, pursue action. I showed signs of molestation. (To be considered sexual abuse by the organization, an incident must include physical contact.). DCF is a flipping joke. Unfortunately when we do respond to child sexual abuse, we often respond as if a 9- or 10- or 11- or even 12-year-old was the same as an adult.". She has a babydoll that she carries around in a "real" car seat and refers to her as her baby sister. There's still libraries, if anyone can believe that. Im not quite sure what wrong with our system but this a profound women who lacks even cleaning her kids or taking them to the doctor not to mention has almost had her kids taken multiple time and almost had one of the twins aka our little girl almost pass away from failing to act on how sick she truly was with E. coli E. coli Im tired of this fucking system cops are fucking pigs. This and the fact that my birth father was a registered sex offender have me pretty convinced. Few weeks later Im going through his notebook and I see he wrote the words sex, butt and gay. We don't have cable but we do watch movies sometimes. Thank the child for telling you. It was purple and red, so I asked if she had a hard poop and she said no, Daddy hurt it. Anyone who knows of their child or grandchild crying out for help and does nothing is JUST AS GUILTY. I hope someone replies back to me. and shes like he's a man afterall Anyways she's never said anything happened between her and dad and dad was always a very respectable person in many peoples eyes so i never even considered that it could be true. He is mentally and emotionally abusive to her . If not her father, someone had abused my child. No maam . Who is protecting our children when parents fight for there children and the law goes against the parent who is not the offender. I felt terrible. So the first thing to do is to separate the child from the abuser, and to ensure there is no further communication between the abuser and the child. Why does the law protect parents who molested or rap????? He is now 4. I'm just scared to leave them home alone with each other. She goes over her dad with other kids and sleeps in the room with them. YOU are in charge of your body. She took her son to a specialist and hoped that would be the end of it. If they muster up the courage to come to you for help, you simply must respond like a responsible, caring adult. She seems to like it but it still seems bad to me. I was stunned. There are thousands of innocent children being violated every day. I notice my sister son touch my daughter and I want to tell his therapist but Im scared they take my sis son away from her could that happen. Now all if a sudden my daughter has mentioned to a soc worker I've done something that I know is not true. He told me that he used to cut himself everyday and heard voices telling him to kill/hurt himself. She told me it started when she hit puberty at around 13. Here we are. He killed the person she would've been. Last night my daughter (4 years old) told me that her teacher at school, an older female in her late 50's or 60's, has been inappropriately touching her and forcing my daughter to let her hold her even when she makes it known that she does not want to be held. She kept digging at herself when we got out of the shower today as well. I remember being taken to a neighbor's house and even recalled some of the furnishings that were upstairs in the bedroom. I'm her mother, her only parent and as her parent my main job was to protect her and I feel like I failed her. I asked him about it and he said said he doesnt know what the word gay mean and he said that sex means when people lay on top of each other. That way, your child knows it's also your job to protect them. "If you are in a confusing area, call Darkness to Light or speak to a professional. Maybe someone may shine light to hats wrong here. Please don't make the same mistake. He said my sister was disgusting because shes a lesbian. Her response, how else do you get it out? I will pray for all of you. Child sexual abuse does not have to involve sex, penetration, or nudity. It would be interesing to know about your credentials and where some if this information is coming from and whether it is fact or opinion. These are all signs and things to watch for. Advising to contact police if your child tells you they have been abused sexually is the exactly what I did and I absolutley regret doing. Yet she shows no signs or acts in anyway that would set off alarm bells. I wish I was given better advice or that the articles were a more thourough and had explained in better detail how the process works when it comes to the laws and evidence. I ask her how many times has this happened and she says I dont know mama too many to count. One time he was laying down on the ground and she ran ovwr and sat on his hand and he pulled it away. My issue is I do not know if I am overreacting oris she showing signs of being molested. He loves me and I love him wit all my heart. Also you could use it as a pronoun, "There is no hope!" Can anyone give advice. Which I did already know that the legal system needs evidence to be able to interviene, but I had never gone through this and at the time didnt know there was not going to be any evidence and by the time I learned there was no evidence, I had already made the report and had a court date to go to in the near future. Inserting objects in their own genitals. He said really no ine wants to hear that. Sometimes you can tell how much they miss the old parental . I seen a young boy about 10 go in my neighbor house I'm very concerned please help me I don't want to call the police because I'm not sure. I'd ask her why, that theres no reason to and she'd say because dad is a man. That's not to say that some cases don't need to be reported. It was a video cgat and her dad said oh really but was it on accident or on purpose. This black officer retaliated on me for some one i complained about and for me complaining about some other stuff or whatever and had some teachers and kids at a D.C. school and some outside neighborhood folks etc. That 90% of children who are being abused, do not have physical symptoms or evidence of being abused because they are being groomed by the perpetrators and perpetrators dont want to get caught so they dont leave evidence. I have a distant memory of when I was about 9 years old (maybe younger) and waking up and finding that my uncle, who was visiting us, and who was only 2 years older than I am, had cut a hole in my undies and was perhaps trying to penetrate my butt with his fingers. I've pretty much gotten over all this stuff and I am only left wondering whether what happened to me was real or imagined. So, there is no way I would have told my mother, if she even noticed, when he was around. The respectable loving dad i've known him to be, and then the dad that he was to my sister who's power hungry, dark, scary and touches children like his daughter. He stuck his fifer up his butt . S services r involved. They lull you into a false sense of security, and that's what my . She says that we approach child sexual abuse as a criminal justice problem, waiting for harm to occur before deploying massive resources, mostly aimed at punishment. I should not allow a step child to make me feel uncomfortable in my own home. Two years later my child thank goodness, seems to be doing better not displaying any noticable signs of the abuse still happening, nor has she told me anything about it happening. I am certain my brother was never involved in such activities with his daughter but she might have been sexually molested by another male or even female person and is projecting on him because he is a safe target. Her first response was Heck No Mommy no one kissed me. i did see a psychologist and she did say i will have very bad scars. I dont what to think of my son at this point please someone help. He was recently moved to his fourth facility, and she doesn't believe he's coming home anytime soon. Can refer to a local reporting number. I had her for one night and she was trying to play with my beasts and calling them Cheechees and rumbling her own. My girlfriend's 11 yr old son and 7yr old daughter, wait till we fall asleep and then they start touching each other. The mother, who lives in a suburb of a major city, called at least 20 places looking for help before she found a program that took juvenile sex offenders. Is this normal affection or abuse? And that's why she showed me where to stand in the bathroom so no one (dad) would see us naked from the window. I'll be posting all of this stuff on my website. She answered accudent then she said sge had a bump on her butt. I mentioned this to our mother (much later) and she confirmed that our father used to take my older sister and I over to a neighbor's house quite often and she even confirmed the furniture that was in the room as I had remembered it. So again he "showed" what happened and this woman did NOT even pay attention to what he was doing. If they are acting like they don't want to be left alone with that person even if they are a baby; do not leave them alone. My son cant even take his shorten off or his diaper without help ! Take her to counseling to help with the trauma. If you feel your child is being violated, don't be afraid to ask them, but do it in a safe and private setting. she screams and crys hystarically when its time to go home she wont eat she is constantly angry eaying she hates everybody wnd everuthing i need help, 7 my little sister and kids red kiss kuler, My son is 3 Nd he kept putting his fingers in his butt every time i would ask him why he is doing that he would shrug his shoulders and say idk and recently I asked him again and he said his step dad is touching poking his butt and his privates And I ask him and his saying more people are touching him. There have been times she she has trouble pooping, she has gone for days and when she finally goes, it is painful for her. Get help and you and your husband should be the only adults around him. My godfather helped himself to my body from ages 0-60 mos. I keep him from my son and daughter but I can not erase the memories of the pain he has caused them. I just can't prove it. Have compassion . Oh yes, we do remember. But my sister was my best friend, and he did terrible things to her. I feel a little afraid. Its getting to the point where I want to leave but I cant manage to do it because I care and love him so much. I just want him to get help and I dont know what to do. took me years to talk about it. I am single and not dating (we live alone). If he doesn't kiss her vulva, she will spread her legs apart and ask him to. I want to tell my mom but I dont want to hurt her and brake her heart. He told me that the boy would force him to touch him or look at his gentials or he would touch him and want to look at him. I have a weird hatred and fear of my adoptive father so I'm suspicious it was him, but I'm not sure because I didn't hate him when I was younger. She told me he puts on a scary mask and scares her and hurts her. What is less well-known is that in 43 percent of assaults on children under 6, juveniles are the offenders. I wish she would believe me but Everytime I hear them moving around I let her know but they outsmart her completely. Our first concern is to ensure that there is no further abuse and that the child remains safe. I would say to parents BE INFORMED more so about the signs in your children's behavior as victims in order to know the signs and help them to escape at a early age. Closed? I just start opening up to his father about his behavior but all he does is ignore it and says it won't never happen again. She even goes on about her weight. The problem I'm having now is that his son is starting to touch his other two younger brothers inappropriately. One is the most obvious: he must not have the opportunity to treat another child (boy or girl) in any inappropriate way. If you think your child is being molested by someone, keep them safe and get them away from that person. If anyone is standing by while a child is being molested, we do remember. When the Midwestern mother's son was in preschool, another boy touched him inappropriately. The detectives are not arresting the guy and dcf is just sitting on their ass. Not trying to go into the full story since its a lot to write. I am sound minded and this officer needs prayer, we all do! Her son has been on both the receiving and giving end of inappropriate sexual behavior with a child. My daughter's father always likes to shower with her and I caught him exposing himself to her when he thought I was out smoking a cigarette. I've a court order. He'd wake her up in the middle of the night and ask her to sit on his lap. Words that are spelt differently, but have the same pronunciation which have different definitions from each other, are known as homophones. @Jamie, get a life. This is a problem that we don't discuss enough and it's everywhere. I was in a relationship w him for 5 yr and i have a 3 yr old girl i worry for. I'm really worried about my 6 year old son's on-going behaviour. About 5 months ago my boyfriend told me that he sees figures. We had both good years and good times together, and yet here I am. I need help, am suspecting my husband that he is touching my 2yrs and 4months daughters private part. These sweet, innocent children need our protection and support above all else. their child tells them that they've been molested, What to do if your child tells you they were touched, LAPD Detective Charles Schlund shares advice for parents about what to do if their child tells them that they've been molested, Advice on what to do when the child abuse perpetrator is in your daily life, Common misconceptions about sex offenders, Expected timeline after reporting molestation, Finding inappropriate photos of your child online, Interviewing and examining a child after molestation, Suspicion vs. proof about child molestation, More Parenting Videos from Det. These are a few things that I have experienced and have seen happen with children that have been abused. He left me in the sauna with the girl. By definition, child sexual abuse includes inappropriately subjecting or exposing a child to sexual contact (touching), behavior or activity. An example sentence: "that is THEIR house." 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