Dear Anonymous, you are most welcome gorgeous one. The anger is unreal.. the faces he makes look creepy. Before youve even had a chance to talk to anyone, the narc has already painted the picture for everyone, making anything you say completely unbelievable. Sorry, Im rambling now, it will take a long time to get over/past this, if I ever do. He wore my clothes for months, He has now gotten me evicted from my residence as there have been 29 police calls for noise disturbance and the apartments got a citation form the city for the police calls. Assuming the narcissist is actually done with you, the narcissist discard phase can be a blessing in disguise. I hope you find these answers helpful! Access from your area has been temporarily limited for security reasons. If they respect you, they will absolutely abide by your wishes. Maggie x (p.s. They may expose many of their lies and you will no doubt be able to understand the false storyline that they are portraying to others. No contact 3 months and v happy with my life, expect the Idolisation stage is soon to come to and end and for her the fun will soon start. Sign up for notifications from Insider! The idea is to keep you in a state of anxiety, because they need you to feel as though you cant be happy without them. This idealized version of themselves is only possible in the initial stages of the relationship when youre only aware of the side of them that theyve chosen to share. I had a plan to get settled, get help for gambling, get back on my own two feet and then help my teenage daughter who seems to be a mini me on steroids. They become nostalgic about person A, when they become angered or disappointed with person B or C. They will likely cycle among the same group of people until someone moves away or dies. You will rarely see them again unless they find themselves up late one night, bored and horny. If a narc knows the end is nigh, they cannot stand the thought of anyone else knowing any truth about who they are. This may be in the form of outright ghosting your messages and calls, right through to not being available for you at all. Maybe I didnt pick up on it until much later? You could do nothing to save it, though, as the failure comes from the narcissists inability to care about anyone besides themselves. Youve ended it. They devalue you and criticize everything you do. Not a good idea to reveal details to his wife. You have more than enough to work on right now in recovery. In any event, the N will never/ever change; therefore most like anything else that cant be treated it MUST be immediately cut out. I also picked up that he was likely using this to paint me in a bad life to his family & my son, look how angry/bitter/difficult she is & he was a saint putting up with it. Not only are you too sensitive, its your own damn fault that all of this is happening to you., Now, during the narcissist discard phase, they wont even bat an eyelid that youre crying. Why narcissistic abuse and trauma bonding is so powerful for codependents, Why the narcissist chose you: Pathological envy, What happens when the narcissist knows youve figured them out, 3 signs the narcissist is preparing to discard you, Emotionally unhook yourself & starve the narcissist of supply: Heres how, Invalidation and narcissism: Why they slowly erase you, The narcissist's word salad: Stop biting now, Proof the narcissist abuses you intentionally and will never change. It is natural to want an explanation for why you were devalued and discarded, but unfortunately, the narcissist is not likely to give you one. But equally, 100% true. The technical storage or access is required to create user profiles to send advertising, or to track the user on a website or across several websites for similar marketing purposes. This is when the discard happens youre tossed aside in favor of someone new, someone who can provide that initial high they desperately need. We had a 1 yr old & I was expecting our 2nd child. The narcissist will likely move on from the discard as quickly as possible because they simply want free reign over their life at this point. It is cruel and a form . When the narcissist looks at you and says such cruel words, they are in fact looking at the unmet parts of themselves, which they refuse to acknowledge. Youd think that after all of the toxic behaviour we experience at the hands of a narcissist, being discarded by them would be welcome. They're irritated with you all the time. Typically, a narcissist will not care if you ignore them after they discarded you, because they have moved on to new prey. He studied at the University of Amsterdam and has a bachelor's in Clinical Psychology. The narcissist discard phase is so painful and confusing because it seems easy for the narcissist to toss you aside; they appear totally lacking in emotion. All of their true traits will shine through because they simply cannot hold that mask up a second longer once theyve been discovered. Theyve essentially erased you from their life for now, but they will do everything they can to still garner supply from you in the psychic realm. Inevitably when you make the decision to go No Contact, the narcissist will launch a smear campaign. Take care of you. They will gaslight you and manipulate your memories and reality in such a way as to try and make you take the blame for the abuse and their poor behaviours. The narcissist discard can be one of the most confusing, painful, and traumatic experiences a person can go through. So, why bother? A covert narcissist discards you or tortures you until you discard them. It wont end pretty and the sooner you leave them before they completely discard you, the better for your healing. Discarding them first is a major blow to their self-esteem; to counteract this loss of face, they will do whatever they can to devalue you. Its going to take time to heal; theres a lot of pain. However, many people report feeling blindsided and confused after being discarded by a narcissist. Im horrified. One of the initial symptoms of an impending discard is the silent treatment. We ended up moving house! Narcissists are incapable of developing a deeper relationship through intimacy, a necessary component to a sustainable connection. ), Closure Letter to a Narcissist + Burn & Release Ceremony. While this might seem innocuous, such roundabout communication makes their victim feel like everyone around them is repeating the words of their abuser. Want to know more? You have the opportunity to step into your own power and be completely self-reliant. It is not possible to imagine if you have not experienced it. Im involved with a Narcissist,I found out that he was cheating,he in turn ran from the situation,wouldnt talk about it,then act as though I did something wrongwht do I do,up until the time he got caught he was totally different. The narcissist will ghost you and move on with their new source of supply and flaunt it all over social media for your eyes to see. To those who have experienced it, the discard feels incredibly cold and makes little sense. Hed get me into conversational corners and question me with things that clearly had no right answer. Without any previous warning signs or indications that you are about to be discarded. How To Deal With an Angry Narcissist? When theyre ready to discard you, these positive actions are completely absent. It is the active prevention of interaction of any sort. They know that the pain caused from withholding means that you will not only agree to take ownership of their abuse, but you are also willing to do whatever it takes to make things OK again. If one wont give me exactly what I want and I have the opportunity to upgrade to a different, better person (better is defined as higher in prestige), I will do it in a heartbeat!. The feelings of hurt and loss are normal after being discarded by a narcissist. Can I pop over to give them to them?" However, this is also common when the narcissist discards first. Narcissists must control everything and enlisting Flying Monkeys is a big part of that. But Ive certainly paid for that in a big way. This narcissistic likes to get physical and last night he got a taste of what it feels like, he called cops on me! I realise if I was to pay attention to their antics I would be reeled in again. I went through all the verbal abuse, put downs, it was like being a passenger in a race car. Now I just have to stay strong which is so much easier when you are aware of what you are dealing with. They only way to heal your inner wounds is to go in and meet them. Narcissistic discard is when a person with narcissistic tendencies ends their relationship with you. for more on trauma bonds). You did nothing wrong! But you must think that you can heal from this tragedy and have a wonderful future. They have two children less than a year apart. Thats the level of mental disorder were dealing with here. We all ask ourselves this after a breakup. True. Ask a question, get a great answer. Ghosting by the Narcissist serves two purposes: first, to keep you out of their business as they busy themselves with their latest supply, and second, as the source of their continued enjoyment of watching you suffer. Thank You for answering those questions that I had had on my conscience. Im sorry for what you have experienced gorgeous one. Totally crap to hear. The way this phase plays out is largely determined by how far along you are in your relationship with the narcissist. Thus, love bombing is a means to seek attention, boost their . It is a love not of another person, but of ourselves.. They have been left as drug addicts with narcissistic supply being their much-needed drug of choice. Ergo, you are an abusive narcissist. It wasnt safe and there was no right answer. We and our partners use data for Personalised ads and content, ad and content measurement, audience insights and product development. . Ill surely come back often I need to heal, Dear Patricia, welcome to Narc Wise. I have left him 4 times in 5 years! Last Updated on July 4, 2022 by Alexander Burgemeester. The Narcissist discard phase is often the final phase in the relationship. Sick. Another motivation for narcissist ghosting is after the discard. Do you. The narcissist discards people for their benefit and they do not care about your feelings at all. 3. Recyclers tend to value familiarity. Then you find out that you failed the exam. It is sudden & unexplained. Examples of narcissist text messages when hoovering: "Hey, let's catch up. To do so, to engage in any way, only prolongs the abuse and the harm sustained. After weeks, months, or even years of being devalued, victims of narcissistic abuse often believe that they deserve to be left. Lets start from the beginning to see how we reach the discard phase. Watch up. Narcs dont self reflect. She was two and I spent sixteen years with him sharing her or I thought instead he started grooming her as soon as she hit puberty by buying her things I could never even dream of and telling her I was a bad mom crazy you name it , he ended up giving more to my child while wrecking us than I ever had and I could not stop him even though my therapist said we have to get her away I could not she saw him as her dad she never had and a hero. I am now estranged from my beautiful daughter and was replaced again when I caught him again lying cheating etc it was the worse hell ever and I thought id never get up again as he had done this to me before and when I healed and the woman he left for dumped him then I was called back again. It might even appear to be a reconciliation between the two of you. Its a frustrating ordeal. You can call the narcissists bluff and accept the end of the relationship. How to Know If a Narcissist is Finished with You: 9 Sure Signs 1. There is no way to hide the fact that a narcissist discards people in their life. Their personal history is full of splits with people whom they now hate and refuse to talk to, often over events that they have mostly forgotten. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from this sites author and/or owner is strictly prohibited. I hope to have a man that actually Listens, Cares, & isnt calculating the next scheme! Time will help us all. I had to leave in the middle of the night to not get pulled back and I have lost all my belongings. , Dear Queen J, Im so glad it was helpful. They will do whatever it takes to paint themselves as the victim and you as the perpetrator, regardless of what the truth is.Advertisementsif(typeof ez_ad_units != 'undefined'){ez_ad_units.push([[250,250],'unmaskingthenarc_com-leader-4','ezslot_5',119,'0','0'])};__ez_fad_position('div-gpt-ad-unmaskingthenarc_com-leader-4-0');if(typeof ez_ad_units != 'undefined'){ez_ad_units.push([[250,250],'unmaskingthenarc_com-leader-4','ezslot_6',119,'0','1'])};__ez_fad_position('div-gpt-ad-unmaskingthenarc_com-leader-4-0_1'); .leader-4-multi-119{border:none !important;display:block !important;float:none !important;line-height:0px;margin-bottom:15px !important;margin-left:auto !important;margin-right:auto !important;margin-top:15px !important;max-width:100% !important;min-height:250px;min-width:250px;padding:0;text-align:center !important;}. If they are getting their fill elsewhere from far better sources of narcissistic supply, they may leave you alone for a while. Reclaim your freedom & joy and start your recovery journey now! Youve got this gorgeous one. They simply do not have the capacity to love anyone. They tend to return to your life after a long absence to do it repeatedly. He took my chance at saving her from herself. Id admit its not always easy, but your prepping and doing your homework to get an A+ on the next exam. Its been 19 yrs of marriage for me, full of chaos & drama. Plus I became unwell/disabled about 10 years ago, so kind of relied on him to assist me in the home. I know the worst is yet to come as a narc does not accept rejection lying down. Get out by any means necessary, block all contact with the N and anyone they associate with. The sad truth is they almost certainly will return. I love that you love me.. If you begin to build up some strength towards the narcissist over time, that does not bode well for their narrative. One is an act of self-protection & self-preservation and the other an act of punishment & manipulation. All of that effort will be directed at love bombing the new supply and extracting energy over there instead. Once a person is depleted, they will ditch them without a backwards glance and move onto the next victim. Their hope is that once you realize how little you mean to them, you will work even harder to please them. Borderline, narcissistic, and Schizoid Adaptations: The Pursuit of Love, Admiration and Safety. Maggie x. Im sending you buckets of light & love as you embark on your healing journey gorgeous one. Its like they are checked out of reality; they are delusional people. Particularly when it comes to recognising manipulation & stripping back the layers of gaslighting. No contact almost impossible as they are my next door neighbour. If you do try to get back together, they will likely discard you again and it will only cause more pain and heartache for you in the long run. However, the good news is that these feelings do not last forever. I need them for what they do for me, not because I like them for themselves. And now you find out that not only did they never love you, but the whole thing was built on lies and manipulations. *Note Of course, in looking at outcomes for you in enacting No Contact, only the immediate ones are put forward in this piece. Theyll never be able to hook you back in again. Boasting about a new relationship and how well their life is going with the intent of showing how little you meant to them. So I am a example of what a low down narcissistic will do! I actually found these articles by googling how to make a narcissist miserable because she has me so far gone I was ready to just hurt her back right wrong whatever. I need serious help. Being codependent, trauma bonded and ultimately enmeshed with the narcissist makes the discard an absolutely crushing experience. Acknowledge those parts of yourself and love them. Or that this is all your fault. Excerpts and links may be used, provided that full and clear credit is given to Narc Wise with appropriate and specific direction to the original content. We use cookies to optimise our website and our service. Ive been his walking mat, & he has no more use for me. Im in discard phase, help he has my passwords my emails and unemployment access, bank card numbers hes stopped giving compliments long ago, hes online always on phone date night, date day, date hour, he dont c me when I walk by, hes stealing my clothes and more I have nowhere to go, Slowly change your card number, get new accounts, get new emails, close social media, get new numbers. Dear ozanark. Without empathy and a conscience, they will do, say and pretend to be whatever they need to, purely to extract supply from others. Its easier to manipulate someone that cant believe their own thoughts. Yes we are loving people, that is why narcs stay. Especially when they tell others that you were to blame and that you did all of the horrible things. Everything that He Is.. he calls me.! Remove Yourself 2. Many of these narcissistic men are simply what I term trophy hunters: once they have gotten you, they immediately lose interest and leave to hunt someone else. Im pretty sure he knows the jig is up as he has stopped stalking me on social media after doing so for 2 1/2 years and seven discards. Every time you rerun the hurts of the past, you will essentially be granting the narcissist more supply, which Im sure is the last thing you want. Unsurprisingly, and completely intentionally on the part of the narcissist, this triggers your fears, causing you further harm in the murky waters of spiralling self-doubt. Light & love to you gorgeous one. It was absolute torture; more especially given the close relationship I had with her children and the subsequent silent treatment/gaslighting. This last past is important as they need you to see yourself as unlovable. Ive been trying to figure him out for so long, feeling confused by his conflicting behavior. I can explain she is a narcissist, but nobody can even begin to understand the fear. Maggie x. Hi Maggie, do you have a youtube channel? This is breaking our heart. Maggie McGee and Narc Wise, 2019. for the poor new mark. Good things: beautiful, some times good fun that was it. Mantra Care aims at providing affordable, accessible, and professional health care treatment to people across the globe. Yes, you will get over it! You must admire and worship me as a God., You must pour an unlimited supply of energy into my empty void., If you try and fight back, I will punish you.. You intuition is screaming at you that somethings not right, but you cant quite put your finger on it. During the break-up, he said to me, ever since you started standing up to your mum, you changed. Hes stonewalling me, us all really.. its crazy to watch an adult behave so manipulative & callous. This post will answer seven questions related to being discarded by a narcissist (the-7-answers-i-desperately-needed-after-the-narcissistic-discard) and what to do next. Read a lot about the subject. Whether they have an alternative source of self-esteem building narcissistic supplies. Good answer now the victim doesnt have to be dragged through the mud of entitlement of abuse , lie ,and deny and ignoring somebodys pain ; which is abuse , I am so glad you wrote this! 12 Narcissist Discard Signs & Why They Do It. Yep, the narcs point around No Contact, the silent treatment & ghosting all being about silence is 100% correct. , 6 TACTICS! Dont assume that praise will last though, as the narcissist slowly introduces slights and insults into the relationship that are intended to devalue you and your self-worth. This includes all direct forms of communication with the narcissist. Probably best you stay single since you struggle with gambling addiction and domestic violence. I will then answer each of these questions to provide you with the insight and clarity that you need after this kind of experience. Right on the back of being blamed for everything, the narcissist will be actively talking to anyone and everyone you know to rewrite the storyline. Get out. Their abuse is beyond your control. His eyes went dark and were completely soulless and his vengeance was horrifying. In all likelihood, this is untrue, but it may feel true to the narcissist as they arent feeling the same high they initially got from the relationship. Help!! They are indeed forms of emotional and psychological abuse. This is unfortunately very much part of the healing journey with cluster b personality disordered individuals who are abusive. Restraining Order ASAP!!! Yourmental health your psychological, emotional, and social well-being has an impact on every aspect of your life. Last night, he came here to my new place and rang the doorbell and POUNDED on the door all night long until I went outside and took him away from the house. This is clearly desirable because in going to this place you assume the responsibility for any given issue, and the narcissist continues to avoid accountability for their actions and behaviours. This leads us to the next narcissist discard sign. It was more of a stress and nightmare than good memories. However, its not as easy as that. Hovering is identified as an aggressive technique by a covert narcissist. Being in a relationship with a narcissist is a traumatic experience, one that you dont want to repeat. Then things changed and that switch inside of them flipped. What happens When You Ignore a Narcissist Who Dumped You? This new supply is totally validating their existence and they need everyone to see that.Advertisementsif(typeof ez_ad_units != 'undefined'){ez_ad_units.push([[250,250],'unmaskingthenarc_com-large-mobile-banner-1','ezslot_0',124,'0','0'])};__ez_fad_position('div-gpt-ad-unmaskingthenarc_com-large-mobile-banner-1-0'); To protect yourself, you really dont need to be seeing what theyre up to and you dont need to be hearing through mutual acquaintances about it either. Many times when I read articles about silent treatment and ghosting I feel the author must be very careful in distinguishing intent because it is literally what your are told to do in order to protect yourself from abusers even when the abuser may not realize they are abusers, which many dont. It often happens without any warning signs or indication that you are about to be discarded. why would i want that bag of shit back??? I've missed you so much!" "I'm so sorry if I hurt you. But I will get my life back, I will be the easy going peaceful self I was before her. Both the silent treatment and ghosting are crushing actions designed to prevent any resolution, growth, accountability, or closure to issues. Once the narcissist has completely broken you down and you can no longer fuel their ego, they will discard you. Its normal to feel like you were silly for falling for a narcissist in the first place. But 1 day, in the future.. They may leave you suddenly and rationalize it in any of a number of ways. His verbal abuse started shortly after the affair; around yr 2 of marraige. You have very deliberately been programmed by the narcissist to doubt yourself at every turn. Not likely, but they might if they want to gain something from it. So my narcissist is married to my brother. Also, given that the narc takes zero responsibility, they will blame you for all of the reasons why the friendship or relationship didnt work. You see, the narcissist is a pathological liar. In true narcissist form, it was never her fault. !Loving Him has caused me much damn child.An they now know he has a substance issue.Nov 9th.2021!I was found outside in a tent with my 1 year old daughter!I hate this shit.Its bad enough I have kids by a narcissist.Now my damn child in the system. We have what they want more then anything in life. With time comes healing and eventually your wounds will fade away until they are only scars left behind to remind you what happened to prevent it from happening again. They want to be the most important person in the room, or at least accepted by the most important . If he has that protection order, dont contact him. Butafter a while the novelty of enacting the loving couple wears off and they lack the ability to stay emotionally connected to you once things are less than perfect. They simply wanted to get rid of you in the most efficient way possible and that is why they chose to discard you without any warning or explanation. Ive been on the verge of total despair for years with my narcissist wife. Instead, they highlight how they were the victim and how youll fail in every subsequent relationship. Without a subpoena, voluntary compliance on the part of your Internet Service Provider, or additional records from a third party, information stored or retrieved for this purpose alone cannot usually be used to identify you. I totally get it, they will never offer you any apologies or closure. New Supply is a GOOD Thing . There are always some telltale signs that a narcissist is getting ready to discard someone, whether it be a friend, partner, coworker or family member. The build-up to a discard can last weeks or even months as the narcissist preps you for the final phase. He either has been stealing my clothes or hiding them along with other things and than telling me I hid them on myself. got home and wrote of list of good and bad things about her. [ COPYRIGHT 2023 - UNMASKING THE NARC - ALL RIGHTS RESERVED ] Chic Lite | Developed By. Relationships with narcissists tend to follow a pattern that plays out again and again. Unfortunately, that strategy will never work. These people are capable of anything. A narcissistic collapse may take two forms #1 Covert narcissist withdrawal. Good luck to any/all experiencing same. If you would like to change your settings or withdraw consent at any time, the link to do so is in our privacy policy accessible from our home page.. 2. Oh my gosh, I just laughed out loud. No Contact is frequently the last option for victims of narcissistic abuse who are pushed to do so as a self-preservation measure. xx, Dear Shelley, thank you for your kind words. It is seized as solid evidence that you are one sick puppy, truly narcissistic! Maybe theyre spending a lot more time on their appearance and how theyre presenting themselves to the world. Relaying messages through friends. The greater and overall more significant outcome of going No Contact is that you are reclaiming your life, your freedom, and your joy. Do you think that it was possible the narc wasnt one in the early years, or was it just more hidden/down as serious delression (from his words) & though he wouldnt seek help for it! In reality, no amount of effort would have changed the relationships outcome, as the narcissist is always looking for new victims to pad their ego. The narcissist will typically disappear from your life abruptly, without providing any explanation for why they are leaving. The sad truth is, they hate seeing their previous victims; whom they believed they had totally destroyed, living their best lives. Even though this is not true at all. In this stage, the narcissist shows their true self, one which is no longer enamored with you but desires to control you. If youre wondering if the new supply is getting a better version of the narc than you, the answer is no. If you think you have been blocked in error, contact the owner of this site for assistance. They have abused my parents beyond belief. Their logic goes like this: The silent treatment is a form of emotional abuse used by narcissists. Most often they will attempt to charm you and shower you with flattery. I start a new job next week. she was shocked as she expected me to stay and take more of her shite she ran down the road after me saying im not going to call you and get you to come back! my reply was, is that a promise and i dont want to come back. You can finally be free of their controlling behaviors and hurtful words, but in the moment, a discard feels pretty awful. 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