Later that day when I went to see him again he had a bite on his neck and it looked like a love mark. Anyways, so he is going out with him tonight, and I am trying my hardest to have faith and trust in him. So my boyfriend is becoming much more distant as of late. By But when I'm home, I'm usually out with himbecause I miss him! A few slurred hey baby I'm OKs are not too much to ask. To an insecure girlfriend, she might assume guys' nights consist of heading to the strip club, then going to a seedy rub-and-tug afterward. They have these piano bars here and my hubby and i went oncebut was not something we said, "HEY, lets go again !" Id quit that game and never play again. You have to trust him because you have no choice. It wasnt just that, he was a flirt. I actually encourage my husband to go out with his friends though.. So no, we don't go to bars and not J. because we don't drink but we also don't go to strip places either and we definitely limit the amount of contact we have alone with the opposite sex. To hook up. It's one thing for your girlfriend to go partying without you and another for her to go without even informing you. He would probably be pretty darn red too. explicit permission. and yea i dont agree with how much he is going out and getting drunk. He is very trusthworthy and honest, etc. Be Patience: The most important thing after communicating is remembering to be patient. Kelly1988 My ex cheated on M. once and i had him on a very short leash for a while. I know what it's like to love someone but know they aren't good for you. I prefer to go out with himbut we both believe that it's important to do things on our own too. Dont laugh but normally I go out with my girls to the karaoke bar or this diner/ bar thing where we live, my spouse to Hooters (ew) or the sports bar and we dont have issues because its planned in advance and we know who the other person is hanging with. My husband likes to have a beer or two so he does go to the local dive bars with the guys after work. I can tell you as a man, that he appreciates that, it shows trust, it shows that you are trying to grow in the relationship, and it shows that you love and care that he take time for himself. That's how long I have been here. I read a story and call it. The constant fighting wouldn't help either, and I'd say that the relationship could be headed towards a breakup unless he wants to pay more attention to you. That being said we aren't glued at the hip and I am not his mother, so if he wants to hang out with his buddies or I want to go out with my friends for a girls night, neither of us has a problem with it. Again, there are exceptions. He didn't let me know anything. Did he actually love me? @jamie He countered me and said he'd be fine if I "go to the movies with Matt" (one of my good guy friends). Nearly everyone is guilty of giving their phone or other electronics too much attention from time to time, but if your partner is always so entrenched in what's going on elsewhere, it could be because they're no longer invested in what's going on between the two of you. "Not including you in family events is a pretty good indicator that your partner has checked out of the relationship," Theresa Herring, LMFT, a licensed marriage and family therapist, tells Romper in an email exchange. I think that is how the trust goes both ways. Sorry if I'm completely out of line, it's J. that I've known so many people who've ruined their relationships over situations like this. 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I did it again. Nothing controlling about it. If it's a trend, however, you might need to do some reflecting. I guess it's all in how you carry yourself. If he is out all night having "fun" and doing all this ****, hes not up to the challenge for being your boyfriend. I'm a very sporadic patron of this bar. You know, if you're meeting up with friends at a bar and you get there early. This is what gets you in trouble. I feel for you too. UH. However, I understand about being concerned that he gets drunk, maybe has problems w/self-control.. this has been posted a long time ago and i hope you're not with him anymore. <3. I have male friends that were servers there who are friendly and are known entities (we have occasional cribbage tournaments). Started February 13, By Anyone that cant handle that isnt ready for a real relationship. if your bf is okay with it then there's no problem. So no I wouldn't do that, but I would have an opposite sex friend even in a committed relationship if it was okay with all parties involved. He's due to come home in a couple of weeks but his dissapearing acts on the weekend just winds me up. Some people trust because they are good people and lack experience and it's just the right thing to do. A guy, but went home with a girl. It J. seems silly to worry when there is J. nothing to worry about. I am in a similar situation right now and I'm pulling my hair out. I know I can trust him. I have done a few "ladies' nites" with some of the other moms from my son's school. He does not even care if I go dancing cause he knows who I am going home to. My boyfriend goes out all night and doesnt call or text me a By entering this site you declare How many people have you slept with in your life?? Like I said before, lots of "casual meetings over drinks" have turned into affairs. That's right. Wear anything other than what I usually wear? My bf lives in the same town as me but i only see him when he`s not stoned or drunk. Here^s what I got from what I read: 1. My boyfriend goes out, spends time with his friends, and drinks on the weekends. SO he was not to be trusted. The whole idea that you never go without each other to parties is quite frankly absurd. SO to your question. S. My husband doesn't like it when I go out to bars or clubs without him but if I want to go hang out with the girls every so often I can and I do go. Karmic Relationships: What They Are & When To Leave, According To Experts, 5-Ingredient Meals That Everyone In The Family Will Love, 30 Women's History Month Facts That'll Remind You How Badass Women Are, 8 Black-Owned Parenting & Baby Brands To Try, What Parents Are Talking About Delivered Straight To Your Inbox, By subscribing to this BDG newsletter, you agree to our. I have a friend that I met on eharmony. Ahhhh, the Casino has a hold on him. Guy didnt wish me happy birthday am I wrong to be upset? They said yes without question. Davidgrx Although it's good for your relationship for both your and your partner to do things without the other person, some of the specific things that they (or you) do alone can actually give you some insight into how they're feeling about the relationship. Do what you feel is right. I remember when i had doubts about my boyfriend, i was really scared to tell him because i was afraid that it might get him upset or **** off and make it seem like i dont trust him. the next morning he said he was wasted with a bunch of his friendsand hes not the type to cheat on a girl, but who know what can happen when their drunk you know? Needless to say, the abuse of such substances can negatively affect decision-making. I on the other hand don't know a single woman who is attracted to other women. I think a lot of the nervousness comes from being worried about looking like a loner or a weirdo, but when you . Eventually I broke down, had a hard time with it, and she dumped me. We have a very stable relationship and have known each other for over 20 years even though we have only been married for almost 3 years. I don't want to ask for his attention. Learn to trust your partner. Before telling your partner something like this, pragmatism demands some thought first to how much you're asking and expecting a person to change. But I would care if he went with women , J. like he would not like M. sitting drinking or dancing with men. You are going to be better off for it, and I think that rocks. before we were married my wife went out with her friends every couple of weeks to the bar seen. I think once you are older and in a serious committed relationship - especially if kids are involved - those days are kinda over. You know honestly im sure it depends on the person. No brainer. I am a very touchy feely person. While this can be a helpful resource for some, others are using these platforms to self-diagnose and potentially harm their mental health. With us its always all good because we know with who, where and why the other person is going out. Our relationship as a family is great, we all get along, ex-wife included. If after talking about it you still object to him going to strip clubs, that's okay! I had an ex bf from years ago. I started to get upset. My kuwait he text me day and night but no telphone call. A bar you've been to with him and women are frequently coming to say hi to him, hugging him, getting his attention. But not everyone would know the difference. I occasionally go to after work happy hour with a big group of co-workers. since I'm an adult no one LETS or ALLOWS M. to do anything. Over time the concern faded as I learned to trust her and she never violated that trust. I feel for you. My husband and his friends will have a "guys" weekend once a year. We have no problem with this and neither do most of the couples among our friends. =). Has she always been that way, or is this a recent development? Holy crap youre a dick. If you want to keep this guy then you will have to learn to give him his freedom. Yuck. I guess I have.. Tech Organizer. But it got old. Not all of your friends or theirs will definitely be in relationships at the same time, so it's not necessarily a red flag if they plan dinner out with one of their single friends, but if hanging out with their single friends without you starts taking priority over spending time with you, that might mean that something is wrong. I never liked this part of a relationship. That means, he wants to reassure you that a) he didn't go home with some bar floozy and b) he got home safely. If it becomes a constant thing of going ot the bars all the time and it eats into your time with him, which is what my bf wants to do, then you may have something to worry about. Is it okay for a boyfriend or girlfriend to go out to bars or clubs without you twice a week? Both myself and my husband don't drink. The funny thing was it was that attitude of his that I think made him sleep around. Happy couples need time apart and to. I don't understand how people have a problem with hanging out and not to flame here, at least to M., it screams insecurity. In my circle of friends, I am the cook, I know what it feels like. Don't Say Bad Things. Did I go to local bars and hang out and have all the fun you mentioned above when I was single? Even I have had experience with these and I can tell you how inappropriate it is to not hear from your boyfriend. I feel neglected and I don't think I should be treated like this. I thought this was an interesting point of view, and it made sense because women are in touch with the emotional side of attraction more than men are. But, that's not the point of your post so I digress. You met him at a bar. At all. Life doesnt begin at 30, dont let anyone tell you different, I feel hurt and embarassed bec he doesnt reply to my text. Tell him you also have a good time there even when you cannot wait to see him again. So I'm thinking all of you ladies would think I was bad. My boyfriend does this most weekends but worse promises to make plans with me then chooses to go out drinking instead turns off his phone or ignores me and stays out all weekend then comes running back always with excuses we spoke about this several times about how it upsets me to be waiting for him and then I hear nothing until the next day or 3 days later he doesn't even tell me half the time he is cancelling on me I don't even know where he is half the time so if it gets to that stage you are in trouble it is emotional torture. I have also felt the "most women are bisexual" opinion to be not true in my circles. I toned down my friendliness over the years to make him more comfortable. 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